Ten Unhelpful Beliefs That Prevent Self-Compassion

How you speak to yourself changes everything. I sometimes imagine a scenario in which all of our private self-talk is hooked up to a loudspeaker for the rest of the world to hear. What would it sound like? For many of us, it might sound something like this: “What and idiot – why did you … Continue reading “Ten Unhelpful Beliefs That Prevent Self-Compassion”

When Transference Harms: My Story (part 2)

In my last post I described the somewhat contradictory personality of Mr C, my ex-therapist, and how our relationship began. (Spoiler alert: the relationship ends in abuse, grief, disaster.) Yesterday I was reading an article about Adverse Idealising Transference (AIT), and felt that I couldn’t complete my story without dedicating a post to this subject. Adverse transference … Continue reading “When Transference Harms: My Story (part 2)”

3 Types of Therapist That Abuse Their Clients

Around ten percent of male psychotherapists admit to having sex with at least one patient. Between 22 and 26% of patients report having been sexually involved with a previous therapist to another practitioner (Professional Standards Authority, 2007). All studies that are available to date show very negative consequences for the clients. They exhibit symptoms such as trust issues, isolation, feelings of … Continue reading “3 Types of Therapist That Abuse Their Clients”

Surviving A Narcissistic Therapist: My Story (part 1)

Some people know what it’s like to miss a therapist. Some people know what it’s like to miss a narcissist. Very few people know what it’s like when the person they miss is both: the one you trusted and allowed into your deepest thoughts and fears, who then systematically and abusively tore a hole through … Continue reading “Surviving A Narcissistic Therapist: My Story (part 1)”

10 Warning Signs of Bad Therapy: The Biggest Red Flags

There are some great therapists out there. There are also some bad ones – I’m sorry to say. Anyone who has read any of my recent posts will know that I had the misfortune of meeting a therapist who turned out to be abusive. In my last post, Setting Boundaries, I mentioned the difference between boundary crossings (which … Continue reading “10 Warning Signs of Bad Therapy: The Biggest Red Flags”

Setting Boundaries: How Your Therapist Is Keeping You Safe

Picture this. You’re sat in the waiting room of your therapist’s office. Your appointment was due to start fifteen minutes ago. Just as you’re beginning to bore of the housekeeping magazines on the coffee table, and your anxiety about some upcoming emotional disclosure is reaching an undeniable peak, your therapist calls you in. As you settle nervously into your usual … Continue reading “Setting Boundaries: How Your Therapist Is Keeping You Safe”

A Guide To Finding The Right Therapist

Finding the right psychotherapist can seem like a daunting task. For those of us in the throes of mental health difficulties such as anxiety or depression, this worry can be exemplified further when we realise the whole host of options that are out there. The accompanying terminology surrounding all of these options can be overwhelming. If you’re anything like me and are put off by situations that … Continue reading “A Guide To Finding The Right Therapist”

Where It All Begins

I was recently abused by my psychotherapist. It’s probably not what you’re thinking. It’s way more devastating than that. But it’s also more positive than it is devastating, if that makes any sense. It’s a growth opportunity. That’s why I’ve decided to write about it. Still with me? Good. I’ve started this blog with a view … Continue reading “Where It All Begins”